抱紧他

认真的看完了 想吐槽的是两个人演学生时代实在是有点出戏啊😂学生时代你我相遇 朋友们和父母们意外得知我们在一起了 我们也许会分开但不会分别 长大后也许每个人都会有厌倦期 但最爱的人永远是彼此 我们共同抗艾 我逗你欢笑 看着你难过我也不舒服 两句词印象深刻 “妈妈 就好像我亲手杀了我爱的人”“他的朋友 提姆”十五年的恋人 这段感情 是永恒的 杰克 在你离开后的十天后我就去找你了 在那十天里 我把我们的爱情故事写成了一本书 名字叫做 Holding The Man

Этот фильм уже получил достаточную поддержку, расположив к себе критиков и растаявших от него зрителей, совершивших исторический экскурс в прошлое, окрашенное юношескими восторгами, смятением чувств, оторопью открытий и неверия, вместе с настигающими главных героев проблемами — неотъемлемой частью драматически развивающихся отношений, пронзённых клинком жестокосердной судьбы, и без того беспощадной к тем, кто вышел за рамки традиций, обеспечивая истории достоверность биографической повести, чего не достаточно, чтобы так просто согласиться с полученной картиной признанием, относящимся, как мне кажется, по большей части к исходному тексту книги Тимоти Конигрейва, ценность которой трудно рассмотреть в формализованном представлении режиссёра Нила Армфилда. Создатели картины отказались разделить роли между разными исполнителями, использовав одних и тех же для представления её ключевых персонажей в переходе от юности к зрелости, минующей существенные для развития их связи пятнадцать лет, предпочтя удерживать на всей этой временной дистанции возрастных актёров, которые мало убедительно выглядят в студенческую пору, навёрстывая своё лишь с наступлением возрастных и прочих физиологических перемен, обещанных драматургией трагически развивающихся событий, обострения которых не приносят ожидаемой увлекательности, придавая действию скорее миссионерскую, нежели художественную функцию, так что даже подмешанный в него шекспировский мотив не придаёт ему особого блеска, удерживая ленту в рамках пыльных дневниковых заметок, отмечая равенство давно уже уравненных временем чувств, расписываясь в том, что у «тех» всё точно также, как и у «этих».При всей неоднозначности внутрисемейных отношений нетрадиционно ориентированных влюблённых, кино сторонится от эмоциональных вспышек, подъёмов и кульминаций, замыкаясь в рамках прозаического текста, причем его прозаичность в конечном итоге и выбивает почву для симпатий к работе, может и не равнодушных к своему делу людей, результат которой, однако, воспринимается прагматичной данью времени, требующего хотя бы формального соблюдения принесённых им новых приличий.

开始时对 John 并没有太大的感觉，直到后段说到他特意去看 Tim 的表演，结束后 Tim 在 John 的车顶逗他的那段，让我觉得 John 很迷人，很优雅。

到了最后写到沉重的 AIDS 的部分，John 的豁达更是将这种优雅体现得淋漓。

Tim 是那种一开始就让人爱上的帅，当说到他剪了头发换成短发后，那种 charming 更是让人变得揪心，这一刻的美好，会在影片结尾被摧毁成什么样？

也许这类型的片，或者说现实中的这类少数人，我们看到的，听到的，总是免不了以这样的结尾来收场。

惋惜伤心后有时会伴随着罪恶的声讨，但正如其中一篇影评所写，如果没有这样做错过，你又怎么知道你最爱的是什么。

你看，即使戴着呼吸机的 John，举手投足之间所流露出来的，仍然是满满的爱。

微博上那些好心的影评大咖弄了资源可以看到这部澳大利亚出品的同志电影《抱紧他》。

豆瓣打分7.4分，而IMDB打分7.0分，显然和《断背山》、《阿黛尔的生活》之类的猛片不能匹敌。

被触动不仅仅是电影，更是最近发生在美国的枪击案。

6月12日发生在美国奥兰多的一场同性恋酒吧的枪击案令人心惊胆战，死亡58人，受伤44人。

出生纽约阿富汗裔的凶手奥马尔·马丁有过短暂的婚史，据媒体采访他的前妻，马丁多次家暴殴打她，虽然凶手是穆斯林，但也没有对宗教极度虔诚或非常激进。

早在2013年波士顿马拉松爆炸案中，马丁就曾经被观察，FBI在2014年也曾对马丁展开调查，但官方并未透露此次调查的原因。

ISIS在事发后宣称对此次袭击负责，但马丁和ISIS之间的联系尚不确定。

没有明朗的凶杀动机，唯一的说明，马丁就是一个恐同极端分子，有人联想到《美国丽人》那部著名的电影，其中隔壁“老王”就是一个深柜的恐同分子。

看到知乎上有人对“恐同即深柜”的辩解，说来说去，恐同者非即深柜。

站在不同的角度看这个问题，绝对答案不一。

伊斯兰教对同性恋行为是嗤之以鼻的，并认为是犯罪，有些地方对犯事者施以乱石打死。

而马丁的行凶只能说明一个问题，他是一个深柜，出于宗教的不允许，加之周边族裔的监视，马丁想出柜万万不能，尽管美国同性婚姻合法。

澳大利亚2004年废止了同性婚姻法，而这部电影是发生在八九十年代的故事。

影片蒂姆与约翰的故事和许多异性恋的爱情故事没有什么不同，当然有人认为该片和《平常的心》神似，实则后者更多在争取权力上大张旗鼓。

而该片没有那么大的阵仗，一切显得平淡和温情。

这部同名电影改编自有澳洲同志版“罗密欧与茱丽叶”之称的真人真事小说《Holding The Man》，故事主轴都在描写一段长达十六年的爱情。

本书作者是蒂莫西‧康格里夫 (Timothy Conigrave) 三十四年短暂人生的回忆录，也是蒂莫西写给同志爱人约翰·可列奥(John Caleo)的最后情书。

影片中蒂姆对自己传染病毒给约翰非常的内疚和痛心，一直不离不弃的送走了约翰，而34岁的蒂姆相继一年多离开了人世。

与许多深刻的类型故事相比较，该片真不能算精品，当然影片中俩男主角颜值和演技还是吸睛指数比较高。

至于能够在艺术表现上有所突破，这个真没有，还有俩帅哥装嫩演高中生有些免其为难。

联想最近深陷“约炮”丑闻的吴亦凡，看来直男的烦恼不会比基佬们少多少。

关键的关键洁身自好最重要，做个专一、忠诚、善良的爱人是不是很困难？

平复狂乱的心，你会感受到安全、健康和幸福是多么的重要！

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＃真人真事影片片名《Holding the Man》中的Holding，其實是橄欖球術語，意思是拉人阻擋犯規。

影片來自於真實故事，是根據澳大利亞作家、演員和活動家Timothy conigrave，同名暢銷回憶錄改編。

Timothy在寫完這本書，第十天就去世了，年僅34歲。

＃故事簡介該片根據真人真事改編，還原了八九十年代，澳大利亞，同性戀者生活狀況：——“我們在一起15年了，他是我的丈夫！

”面對同性愛人，遭受愛滋折磨，他選擇了堅守在愛人身邊，一起對抗困難。

帥氣的高中男校，足球隊隊長約翰，與戲劇社中跑龍套的小演員提姆，兩人攜手面對過，許多外界的歧視、批評，也曾在誘惑與忌妒間擺蕩，相識相戀15年至今。

原本以為，他們的愛情已是圓滿，直到愛無法解決的問題逐漸浮現，考驗著他們之間的關係。

這部同名電影有澳洲同志版，羅密歐與茱麗葉之稱的，真人真事小說《Holding The Man》。

故事主軸，都在描寫一段，長達十六年的愛情。

本書作者Timothy Conigrave，34年短暫人生的回憶錄，也是蒂莫西，寫給同志愛人John Caleo的最後情書。

1995年，《Holding The Man》在澳出版。

熱愛演戲的Tim，在高中時期遇見了，性格沉靜的，橄欖球隊隊長John，兩人攜手同行十五年。

Tim在大學時期，熱衷義務獻血生活，在衛生條件不好的年代，致使他感染了HIV病毒，但是他自己，並不知道感染了病毒，並傳染給John，兩人在1985年，被診斷出攜帶HIV病毒，保持相對穩定的狀態，直至1990年。

1991年John，被診斷出患有癌症。

得知是自己將HIV，傳染給了John，Tim泣不成聲：——“感覺就像自己，親手殺了自己最愛的人。

” Tim在剩下，不到一年的日子里，一直陪伴在John左右。

1992年1月26日John去世。

John去世后，Tim著手創作《Holding The Man》一書。

完成此書後僅十天，也就是1994年10月18日，Tim去世，年僅34歲。

抱紧他 (2015)7.72015 / 澳大利亚 / 剧情 爱情 同性 传记 / 尼尔·阿姆菲尔德 / 瑞安·柯尔 克雷格·斯托特

怎么说呢，我不吃两位男主的颜。

说起来有些刻薄，很不喜欢蒂姆，他用行动证明了不作死就不会死，这没关系，个人选择而已。

但是跟上部影片类似的是，他的作死连累了别的人，正如他自己所说，他亲手杀了自己爱的人。

主动追求，然后新鲜感殆尽，尝试新的床伴未果又考上戏剧学院，于是又主动想要分开，是不是真的先动心的人会先死心啊。

还是说跟性格有关，内敛沉稳的人动心晚，但是心会比较持久。

现在越来越多开明的国家同性恋合法化.同性恋合理,合法,客观存在,我们国家不管是教材还是实际中,以前把同性恋患者当病治,这是错误的,其实有病的不是同性恋者,有病的是落后愚昧的思想和观念.我以前有个同事,是同性恋,我们虽然自认包容同性恋,经常拿他的言行举止开玩笑,现在想想这种做法太幼稚了.不能因为不同于常人就排斥迫害异端.海里有各种鱼,陆地上有各种动物,世界的精彩在于多种多样,所以一定要有真正的包容之心.剧作家从小与同性好友相恋相爱,冲破世俗,克服困难,最后走到一起.发现好友感染了爱滋病,剧作家不离不弃,照顾好友.好友死后,剧作家写作品怀念好友,纪念曾经的爱情.他们之间的真诚的爱情比很多男女之爱更深更感人.希望中国也多一些这样的独特电影.世界很精彩毕竟不止一面,有很多面的.而电影就是要反映这更多的方方面面.(附:演员真不是普通人干的,各种牺牲奉献都需要付出.如果演员不是真同性恋,要投入拍这本电影也确实要克服很多的障碍)

I didn't make it to the world premiere of Holding the man (2015) last Sunday in Sydney State Theater. But many friends went and spoke highly of. I did a quick check online and found out how influential the book has been ,basically the gay bible for Australian LGBT groups. Published in 1994, this auto-biography of Timothy Conigrave has shocked the whole Australia by its pure and real narration on homosexual love and also the description period in 1980s when HIV stroke Australia. And the play, adapted by Tommy Murphy in 2005, was also a legend in Australian theatre history, totally crash of ticket box wherever it toured. Not only has the play been on in almost every major cities in Australia and adapted by multiple theater companies such as Belvoir and Australia theater company, it also has made to London and LA for world tour. The legend continues for almost ten years and finally in 2014, director decided to adapt this story to big screen. While Tommy Murphy got rehired as screenplay writer and two hot popular Australian actors as lead, this movie has definitely become the most expected movie of the year. Audiences may get a bit worried due to the hyper successful play as a comparison. As a story about intimacy and delicate emotions, it could be much more easily demonstrated on a single stage with touching and smart dialogues. Fancy cinematographic work or extra mise-en scene could serve as minor importance in story-telling itself. But still, there are definitely more space to develop this romance in film.It is the autobiography at first place that attracted most, with the real story of Timothy and his 15-year partners John holding hand together through bitter-sweet first love, sex, fights, disease and finally death.I'm such kind of person who just cannot hold back my curiosity on such literary works. After searching online without finding new books to sell or ebook to download, I went down to the uni library and borrowed the only copy of Murphy's play. While unfortunately there was still no Timothy's work, it's worth reading the play first to see how he carried out this life-long story in a two-act play. It didn't take me long to read, maybe 2 hours or so. But I was sort of blushed inbetween sometimes, imagining the actors talking so bluntly at stage, about the expression of love and sex. Murphy ingeniously separate the two acts with scenes of love and sorrow, making audiences smile or unable to stop laughing for some of humors at first but incredibly sad and may even cry out loud during the second set. Handful of casts but every role is just en-punto. The very thing that touched me in this play is that the whole storyline and every details of love and conflicts are so real, which could happening any place or just next-door, but people just failed to notice how normal LGBT group is or how fragile true love is, as any types of groups or love. But all we could think about is "weird" "sissy""always fighting for marriage""unhealty life styles" or "HIV positive " and so on. Three scenes in the play has left me strong impression.The first one lie in the beginning when Tim wrote John the letter after their first date, talking about the erection he had and masturbation afterwords with the worry about the expression on sex could be so rush for a new couple. The monologue felt so bold yet cute when actually spoken out from a 16-year old schoolboy. While john is the one who actually read the letter with Tim adding up some of his feeling on the side, the audiences could definitely feel the chemistry and the beautiful blump in-between. The second could be when Tim, in his puberty and freshly new in college, went throughout all these temptation in gay bar and gay peers. He gradually accepted the "non-monogamy or open relationship" theory and decided to separate with John for a while. He alleged that they are both "sexual inexperienced" due to long relationship with purely each other . I believe that most of the audiences and readers will feel the stupidity and ignorance of Tim to trying to sabotage this wonderful relationship and affection(which has been built up throughout the previous scenes). This can be a turning point of the play and indicated the heartbreaking ending, especially when Tim regretted to have infected AIDS to John and cried in front her mom for redemption. But ultimately it shocks me by putting out straightly and ruthlessly how fragile love could be when facing temptations and fresh inspirations. My finally emotional outcry goes to a simple gesture or move instead a complete scene. Though I have to admit that the whole "finding out HIV positive" scenes is torturing and heartbreaking. The simple gesture that Tim "lifts up John's shirt with his mouth and snaked his head underneath it" when they lay on bed after the news and couldn't go to sleep. With too many briliant dialogues and plots in this play, this move had just crushed all the doubts and sadness about their relationship, leaving the ultimate intimacy and trust and treasure of each other. When that scene is supposed to be haunted with endless sorrow from on and off stage, this move has made us recall the beauty of love and support. Since in the play, the bed was hanging vertical above stage (audiences actually standing while leaning on the bed) , making audience have every move in sight. What's more, the design stage is lovely with the dim and lovely light around the bed on the dark and only some photos of their life together seen from behind. I can barely think of any better innovation in the film to surpass this scene. Though over three theaters around Australia has their versions and actors for this play, I still adore the first pair in Belvoir Sydney, Guy Edmond and Matt Zeremes just got this absolute chemistry and original innocence on those two characters, though the Brisbane version got much handsome ones. Anyway, looking forward to this film in August. I couldn't help but respecting Tommy Murphy as such a young successful playwright, hoping he could have more work on big screen as well.

土澳广为流传墨尔本真人真事改编的电影，后段影院中皆泪目啜泣。

其实这是一个生活的故事，讲两个青梅竹马的男孩从从青春荷尔蒙的萌动，到性的尝试，共同面对朋友家庭及社会后走向自己的爱情与生活，悲欢离合后直至死亡亦是相伴，情投意合。

I, take you, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy law, and this is my solemn vow.这誓言虽从未于教堂中朗声宣布，但其实每天都在与你实践与操作。

中间的波折与不同的探索，伤痛后悔，哭过笑过，回首随风过。

不论疾病或健康，贫穷或富有，放浪或操守，身边总有那人说：莫慌，抱紧我。

轻吻一触即渡尽劫波，起码尝过爱的滋味，亦算不曾白活。

为你而经的是非功过、对错因果，都是吾之所得。

其实现在世界特别西方国家对于同志的接受对比过去已经上了很大的台阶了。

平日在墨尔本/悉尼/伦敦等街道上，市场看到同志CP双手紧握的逛街玩乐幸福满满，对单身狗造成不可计数的伤害。

愈发的接受也便显现他们的生活更加生活化，去神秘化/死板化。

像电影中讲的Tim和John的故事，涵盖话题甚广，如 青梅竹马式的恋情，青年性的尝试，感情与朋友、家庭的关系、情感中不同性格的冲突、开放性关系（open relationship）的探索、HIV、责任等等等等。

这些丰富的元素很多都包含在每一对同志或直人的生活经历中，所以才显得如此真实动人。

人们相处的模式、面对的处境或困难都是类似的，可能同志会多些家庭社会对同志身份的压力，但这也日益减轻，在两人的情感世界中，这或许不只是阻力，也有可能是两人黏合在一起的动力与羁绊。

所以考量/思考有同志元素的影片也好，真实恋情或生活也好，最好不要以一种死板的印象去标签化这一群体和任何个人或群体。

有人认为Tim中段的出去探索开放性关系是作，毁了本来美好来之不易的同志感情。

但世事无常，谁又能预测如果Tim即使强行忍住了这冲动，压下自己当时的冲动，又是否能珍视与John的感情而走下去呢。

对一个个性如Tim般的青年来讲，Open relationship的探索让他失去了自己的健康，间接的害了自己的爱人，但同时这出口也让他后来浪子回头，懂得真正感情的珍贵与自省的悔悟，并且经过这个探索释放了躁动后的他，最后也有了底气承担对爱人的责任。

人生是一个连续不断探索的过程。

等到风景都看透，”也许“你会伴我看细水长流。

这个“也许”确是强求不来的，尽人事而听天命，像John这样等回Tim成就爱情的固是幸运，但生活中更是有无数渣男女自是一去不复返，或许他们找到了真正适合自己心性的模式或人，或是自此沉沦放浪形骸。

人都是极其倔强的，特别是选择的路上，更是不能有半分勉强。

不能抒放出来的，憋下去的要么有一天会以某种形式爆炸，要么会雾霾成阴刻扭曲，终身郁郁心结难解。

所以不管对自己、爱人或是他人，当有了探索体验的萌动时，放自己，放Ta去吧，这过程会印证未来昔日的人与路，究竟是不是最合适、心里最最渴望想要的。

I didn't make it to the world premiere of Holding the man (2015) last Sunday in Sydney State Theater. But many friends went and spoke highly of. I did a quick check online and found out how influential the book has been ,basically the gay bible for Australian LGBT groups. Published in 1994, this auto-biography of Timothy Conigrave has shocked the whole Australia by its pure and real narration on homosexual love and also the description period in 1980s when HIV stroke Australia. And the play, adapted by Tommy Murphy in 2005, was also a legend in Australian theatre history, totally crash of ticket box wherever it toured. Not only has the play been on in almost every major cities in Australia and adapted by multiple theater companies such as Belvoir and Australia theater company, it also has made to London and LA for world tour. The legend continues for almost ten years and finally in 2014, director decided to adapt this story to big screen. While Tommy Murphy got rehired as screenplay writer and two hot popular Australian actors as lead, this movie has definitely become the most expected movie of the year. Audiences may get a bit worried due to the hyper successful play as a comparison. As a story about intimacy and delicate emotions, it could be much more easily demonstrated on a single stage with touching and smart dialogues. Fancy cinematographic work or extra mise-en scene could serve as minor importance in story-telling itself. But still, there are definitely more space to develop this romance in film.It is the autobiography at first place that attracted most, with the real story of Timothy and his 15-year partners John holding hand together through bitter-sweet first love, sex, fights, disease and finally death.I'm such kind of person who just cannot hold back my curiosity on such literary works. After searching online without finding new books to sell or ebook to download, I went down to the uni library and borrowed the only copy of Murphy's play. While unfortunately there was still no Timothy's work, it's worth reading the play first to see how he carried out this life-long story in a two-act play. It didn't take me long to read, maybe 2 hours or so. But I was sort of blushed inbetween sometimes, imagining the actors talking so bluntly at stage, about the expression of love and sex. Murphy ingeniously separate the two acts with scenes of love and sorrow, making audiences smile or unable to stop laughing for some of humors at first but incredibly sad and may even cry out loud during the second set. Handful of casts but every role is just en-punto. The very thing that touched me in this play is that the whole storyline and every details of love and conflicts are so real, which could happening any place or just next-door, but people just failed to notice how normal LGBT group is or how fragile true love is, as any types of groups or love. But all we could think about is "weird" "sissy""always fighting for marriage""unhealty life styles" or "HIV positive " and so on. Three scenes in the play has left me strong impression.The first one lie in the beginning when Tim wrote John the letter after their first date, talking about the erection he had and masturbation afterwords with the worry about the expression on sex could be so rush for a new couple. The monologue felt so bold yet cute when actually spoken out from a 16-year old schoolboy. While john is the one who actually read the letter with Tim adding up some of his feeling on the side, the audiences could definitely feel the chemistry and the beautiful blump in-between. The second could be when Tim, in his puberty and freshly new in college, went throughout all these temptation in gay bar and gay peers. He gradually accepted the "non-monogamy or open relationship" theory and decided to separate with John for a while. He alleged that they are both "sexual inexperienced" due to long relationship with purely each other . I believe that most of the audiences and readers will feel the stupidity and ignorance of Tim to trying to sabotage this wonderful relationship and affection(which has been built up throughout the previous scenes). This can be a turning point of the play and indicated the heartbreaking ending, especially when Tim regretted to have infected AIDS to John and cried in front her mom for redemption. But ultimately it shocks me by putting out straightly and ruthlessly how fragile love could be when facing temptations and fresh inspirations. My finally emotional outcry goes to a simple gesture or move instead a complete scene. Though I have to admit that the whole "finding out HIV positive" scenes is torturing and heartbreaking. The simple gesture that Tim "lifts up John's shirt with his mouth and snaked his head underneath it" when they lay on bed after the news and couldn't go to sleep. With too many briliant dialogues and plots in this play, this move had just crushed all the doubts and sadness about their relationship, leaving the ultimate intimacy and trust and treasure of each other. When that scene is supposed to be haunted with endless sorrow from on and off stage, this move has made us recall the beauty of love and support. Since in the play, the bed was hanging vertical above stage (audiences actually standing while leaning on the bed) , making audience have every move in sight. What's more, the design stage is lovely with the dim and lovely light around the bed on the dark and only some photos of their life together seen from behind. I can barely think of any better innovation in the film to surpass this scene. Though over three theaters around Australia has their versions and actors for this play, I still adore the first pair in Belvoir Sydney, Guy Edmond and Matt Zeremes just got this absolute chemistry and original innocence on those two characters, though the Brisbane version got much handsome ones. Anyway, looking forward to this film in August. I couldn't help but respecting Tommy Murphy as such a young successful playwright, hoping he could have more work on big screen as well.